Happy Valentine’s Day!
To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you’re getting this down.
Check: On their first date, he brought her a rose. She brought his background check. And thus he remembered why he hates dating.
A new study takes a look at who is more likely to say “I love you” first in a heterosexual relationship and what that could mean. It doesn’t surprise me that the study found that in two thirds of relationships, the man said it first.
Women, in my experience, don’t like to lay their hearts out on the line and risk seeming clingy unless they know their sentiments will be reciprocated.
In my last relationship, I thought I said ”I love you” first, but then my boyfriend kindly pointed out to me that he had actually told me he loved me twice before that — the first time the phone cut out, and the second time I just flat wasn’t listening to him and started talking about something else.
Whoops.
Here’s what the article had to say:
Women, being from Venus, have a reputation for being the first to spring “I love you” in romantic relationships.
But men actually are more likely to utter those three loaded little words first, and men admit thinking about confessing love six weeks earlier than their female partners, according to an article to be published in the June issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Continue reading
Worry is a dirty whore. Not worth it.
Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Robot Chicken, and Children’s Hospital are all pretty genius.
It really is better to have loved and lost.
Pleasure and pain go hand in hand – you can’t have one without the other. The people who have suffered the most pain are usually the people who’ve felt the most joy.
Finishing a great book is one of the thoroughly gratifying experiences in life.
Museum trips should be mandatory for everyone.
People only care about endangered species if they’re cute. Continue reading
Some babies are really ugly.
Going to college after high school is not the only or even necessarily the best option.
The best couples are almost always physical matches – a 10 and a 5 just won’t work.
Very few people actually like kids in general. Most of us just like the ones we’re related to, and even then, not always.
No one can make you doubt yourself but you.
Being consistently late is like saying, “My time is more important than yours.” It’s rude, disrespectful, and selfish.
Taking a nice big poo is one of the best simple pleasures in life. Try to deny it. Just try. Continue reading
I thought about doing an awesome/sucky list on Las Vegas, because there is certainly a lot of both in that town. But at the end of the day, none of the sucky stuff matters.
I love Vegas. It is a city unlike any other. It is bizarre and surreal and gawdy and beautiful.
Of course, the Las Vegas that I am talking about is a very small fraction of the actual city. I’m talking about the part of Vegas that immediately enters us outsider’s brains – the Strip. I’ve been fortunate enough to experience other parts of this great city, but the Vegas that I’m talking about in this particular article is that (in)famous stretch of Las Vegas Boulevard.
Yes, the casinos are smoky. Yes, if you get too drunk or too stupid you can lose a lot of money. Yes, the drinks are too expensive and the clubs are pretentious.
But holy crap it’s all so much fun! Continue reading
My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago. We’d been together for a little over a year and a half, living together for over a year.
It sucks.
More on that subject another day.
Over these last few days, there has been a surprisingly comforting silver lining. As random people in my life have found out about the break up, they have come out of the woodwork to offer incredibly generous support.
A neighbor who I’ve only spoken with a handful of times offered me a place to stay until I move back to California next week (The boyfriend and I moved to Utah for his work. I told the neighbor no thanks – the split is very amicable, almost ridiculously so.) Continue reading
This is the first in a series of articles that I wrote a few years back. My hope is to give a fresh take on a very old debate.
“How did a spirituality such as Christianity, a spirituality that speaks of eternity, of a world without end, of forgiveness of sins and a mysterious union with the Godhead, come to be represented by a moralist agenda and a trickle-down economic theory?”
Donald Miller- Searching For God Knows What
“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ.”
Philippians 1:9-10, NIV
Many in our society believe that a Christian supporter of same-sex marriage is oxymoronic. If it is, then I suppose that makes me a walking oxymoron. I’m Angela: a straight woman and Christian supporter of same-sex marriage. Of course there is nothing oxymoronic about my desire to give my life to Christ and to see marriage equality become a reality. However a depressingly large part of society—those both deeply religious and completely irreligious—believe that people like me simply don’t exist, that we cannot rationally exist.
Though I have called myself a Christian for my entire life, it has only been a true statement for a little over five years. That was when I came to feel that my purpose and salvation are deeply rooted in the grace and mercy of God and that the Bible is comprised of more than just a lot of interesting advice.
It was long before this transition to faith in Christ that I formed my opinion about homosexuality, which has changed little since. An aunt of mine came out to the family when I was rather young and my parents continuing support and respect of her showed me that she was still the same person I had always known and loved (if only a happier, more at peace version of herself) and that there was no reason why I too shouldn’t love her just as I always had.
When I began to grow in my faith, I forced myself to reconsider my opinion of homosexuality, desiring to know what was true, not just clinging to what I wished to be so. I spent weeks buried in verse and contemplation, struggling to understand God’s will. In the end I resurfaced with a strengthened conviction about sexuality rooted upon a single, undeniable truth: above all else, God wants us to love.
I do not believe that it is a sin to be homosexual, nor do I believe it is a choice. I have many reasons for these and other closely related beliefs which I will cover with as much clarity and biblical support as possible in following pieces. I pray that the Holy Spirit will work through me in my writing, but I admit that I am not absolutely positive that He will. To be perfectly honest, I have no absolute proof that God condones homosexuality, or that God exists at all. What I do have is immense faith about both, faith that I will try my best to share in a rational, tangible manner with the hope that whoever reads my arguments will acquire or have renewed a faith of their own.
I’d also like to emphasize that whether homosexuality is a sin or not, I believe absolutely in the necessity of marriage equality. Ultimately, this issue is one of civil rights and religious freedom, not of moral integrity. Civil marriage has nothing to do with the church. Of course, I believe any adult should be able to commit them self to another in the love and loyalty of marriage, both before God and before the law without condemnation from anyone, but I understand that many will disagree with me on this point. I’d like to ask that those who disagree with my arguments on homosexuals’ right to religious marriage please consider my arguments for civil marriage separately, as they are in fact separate issues.
It is truly tragic that so many Christians (and as seems to always be the case, the loudest bunch) have such an un-Christian prejudice against homosexuals, and in some cases a hatred. And it is tragic that so many LGBT persons will not even consider pursuing a relationship with Christ because they too quickly associate the whole of the church with bigotry. It is my prayer that these articles will give each group a better understanding of the other, and perhaps even unite the two when circumstances will oblige.
God bless.
1. Marry the love of my life.
2. Have kids, but not for a good long time.
3. Visit every continent except Antartica (I hate the cold. Hate it).
4. Get at least one feature script produced.
5. Have a book of short stories published.
6. Buy a home.
8. Become a photographer.
9. Edit a film.
10. Live abroad.
11. Get paid to do what I love.
12. Climb a mountain.
13. Make enough money to go to therapy.
14. Live with purpose and integrity.
15. Stand up for what I believe in.
16. Sky dive.
17. Learn to surf.
18. Learn to cook something other than pasta.
19. Pick up the guitar.
20. Make waves.
21. Have my fifteen minutes of fame.
22. Reject fame.
23. Write a song.
24. Have a play produced.
25. Love unconditionally.
