The difference between life and the movies is that a script has to make sense.
Aqua Teen Hunger Force, Robot Chicken, and Children’s Hospital are all pretty genius.
It really is better to have loved and lost.
Pleasure and pain go hand in hand – you can’t have one without the other. The people who have suffered the most pain are usually the people who’ve felt the most joy.
Finishing a great book is one of the thoroughly gratifying experiences in life.
Museum trips should be mandatory for everyone.
I believe the quarter-life crisis is a relatively new concept that only really came to prevalence in the last decade or so. And I have to say, I think it is a very, Very good thing.
I like to imagine that quarter life is 25, even though I know that estimate is quite optimistic. But even so, I choose to believe that at the barely-adult age of 23, I still have a few years before my breakdown.
I also like to believe that I may successfully be able to avoid a quarter-life crisis of my own, even as I advocate it as an important moment of epiphany for most others. Allow me to explain:
I am extremely fortunate in that I already know what I want to do with my life, and I’m actively working towards it. I want to be a screenwriter, so I’m working on my personal writing while supporting myself through freelance writing gigs, which I also enjoy. I know that I may never make it as a writer, and if I don’t, I’ll be ok, because I’ll find something else I love and will persue that.
I don’t want my life to be about work, but I do want my life to be useful and beneficial. Work is a reality of most everyone’s life, so I want to make it a welcome, even a joyous reality in my own. An old boss of mine used to say, “How you spend your days is how you’ve spent your life,” and it’s so true. Frighteningly so.
So don’t wait until your life is half over to decide to start living it the way you want. Have your freak out now. Stop wasting time in a job that you’re only at because you think it’s where you ought to be and find the work that fulfills you, the work that is where you want to be.
Should is a very dirty word. Don’t let it hold you down. Do the crazy thing, the impractical thing, even the stupid thing. I quit a job without anything else lined up in the middle of this shit economy. Pretty stupid. But I did it because that job was crushing my soul. And you know what? Now, just over a month later, I’m happily self-employed, have written two new short scripts and a draft of a new feature, and things are looking up.
So stop shoulding all over yourself. Have a quarter-life crisis. Figure out what makes you happy. And do it.
Because, why not?
1. Marry the love of my life.
2. Have kids, but not for a good long time.
3. Visit every continent except Antartica (I hate the cold. Hate it).
4. Get at least one feature script produced.
5. Have a book of short stories published.
6. Buy a home.
8. Become a photographer.
9. Edit a film.
10. Live abroad.
11. Get paid to do what I love.
12. Climb a mountain.
13. Make enough money to go to therapy.
14. Live with purpose and integrity.
15. Stand up for what I believe in.
16. Sky dive.
17. Learn to surf.
18. Learn to cook something other than pasta.
19. Pick up the guitar.
20. Make waves.
21. Have my fifteen minutes of fame.
22. Reject fame.
23. Write a song.
24. Have a play produced.
25. Love unconditionally.